Major highlight in my life recently was meeting my wee baby Bex and hanging with his awesome parents. That kid has no clue how lucky he is. Of course, when he gets older and he needs a reminding of how much he should appreciate his parents, I may have to leave out the part about Lani and I drinking beer in the park and running away post haste to a bar when we saw the boy coming with his nanny. It is as though nothing had changed in our lives from last year, we just have this really new cool toy (Bex) and we went to bed earlier. And woke up earlier. Get ready for the wee lad. He has a lot to say.
Monday, November 7, 2011
Party time! Bexcellent! (sorry)
Major highlight in my life recently was meeting my wee baby Bex and hanging with his awesome parents. That kid has no clue how lucky he is. Of course, when he gets older and he needs a reminding of how much he should appreciate his parents, I may have to leave out the part about Lani and I drinking beer in the park and running away post haste to a bar when we saw the boy coming with his nanny. It is as though nothing had changed in our lives from last year, we just have this really new cool toy (Bex) and we went to bed earlier. And woke up earlier. Get ready for the wee lad. He has a lot to say.
Friday, June 24, 2011
Baby, baby, baby, babybabybabybabybaby!!!
There are so many new June babies that I cannot even keep track. It seems like every day I look at Facebook there is a new baby or 2...some I expected with great anticipation, others I had no clue about.
Waverly, Michael, Theo, Sayenna, Max, Hattie, Bex. The sad thing is that I know I am forgetting some. But there are also at least 3 more coming in the next few days. Is this ridiculous?
Let's just focus in on two extra important ones here...a MAJOR congrats for the highly anticipated little addition to the Hambly/Kaufmann family for little Miss Hattie West Kaufmann. This baby will certainly entertain her peers and never be at a loss for engaging conversation if she takes after her lovely parents. Can't wait to meet her.
And the baby that brings the most excitement for me in my life is little Bex. The first of my girls to have a baby! (Rainey...you know you were really the first, but that was a long time ago and you are now a seasoned pro; we are just novices heading into marriage/baby-some-day land around here). I am an AUNTIE! I want to be with that gorgeous little munchkin all day every day and I haven't even met him yet. Hell, I don't even know if he has a middle name or what his last name is. I just know he is my new favorite little baby and he has a very special place in my heart, just like his mother Lani. I just want to squash little Bex with love.
*Added side note: I am the baby birthdate psychic. I wanted Hattie to be born on my sister Laura's birthday. She was. I wanted Bex to be born on my nephew Landon's birthday. He was. Both took an extra week or so of occupancy to make this happen, but I thank you, wee ones. You have excellent birthdays.
Baby fever...no doubt about it. Makes me happy. See, it even made me update this old boring blog.
Saturday, January 8, 2011
2010 FTW
Managing a store on St. John, shopping weekend in Atlanta, seriously HOT tropical days, Jost Van Dyke weekend, get engaged, get married, move to Seattle, 10 year class reunion, Joy's dad dies, start managing Kasala, Jason's biz nearly fails, lots of family visits, Jason heads back to St. John - not to be seen for 4+ months, Camp Wedding, lots of alone time, Jacynth's dad dies (followed quickly by more untimely demises for poor J), Lani gets pregnant, Jason returns, enter 2011.
Rubbing my hands with anticipation for 2011...most excitement for St. John time, a wee Lani/Topher baby, a "wedding", and???
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
I really could not have said it better myself. Really.
A Holiday Message from Ricky Gervais: Why I'm an Atheist
Why don’t you believe in God? I get that question all the time. I always try to give a sensitive, reasoned answer. This is usually awkward, time consuming and pointless. People who believe in God don’t need proof of his existence, and they certainly don’t want evidence to the contrary. They are happy with their belief. They even say things like “it’s true to me” and “it’s faith.” I still give my logical answer because I feel that not being honest would be patronizing and impolite. It is ironic therefore that “I don’t believe in God because there is absolutely no scientific evidence for his existence and from what I’ve heard the very definition is a logical impossibility in this known universe,” comes across as both patronizing and impolite.
Arrogance is another accusation. Which seems particularly unfair. Science seeks the truth. And it does not discriminate. For better or worse it finds things out. Science is humble. It knows what it knows and it knows what it doesn’t know. It bases its conclusions and beliefs on hard evidence -- evidence that is constantly updated and upgraded. It doesn’t get offended when new facts come along. It embraces the body of knowledge. It doesn’t hold on to medieval practices because they are tradition. If it did, you wouldn’t get a shot of penicillin, you’d pop a leach down your trousers and pray. Whatever you “believe,” this is not as effective as medicine. Again you can say, “It works for me,” but so do placebos. My point being, I’m saying God doesn’t exist. I’m not saying faith doesn’t exist. I know faith exists. I see it all the time. But believing in something doesn’t make it true. Hoping that something is true doesn’t make it true. The existence of God is not subjective. He either exists or he doesn’t. It’s not a matter of opinion. You can have your own opinions. But you can’t have your own facts.
Why don’t I believe in God? No, no no, why do YOU believe in God? Surely the burden of proof is on the believer. You started all this. If I came up to you and said, “Why don’t you believe I can fly?” You’d say, “Why would I?” I’d reply, “Because it’s a matter of faith.” If I then said, “Prove I can’t fly. Prove I can’t fly see, see, you can’t prove it can you?” You’d probably either walk away, call security or throw me out of the window and shout, ‘’F—ing fly then you lunatic.”
This, is of course a spirituality issue, religion is a different matter. As an atheist, I see nothing “wrong” in believing in a god. I don’t think there is a god, but belief in him does no harm. If it helps you in any way, then that’s fine with me. It’s when belief starts infringing on other people’s rights when it worries me. I would never deny your right to believe in a god. I would just rather you didn’t kill people who believe in a different god, say. Or stone someone to death because your rulebook says their sexuality is immoral. It’s strange that anyone who believes that an all-powerful all-knowing, omniscient power responsible for everything that happens, would also want to judge and punish people for what they are. From what I can gather, pretty much the worst type of person you can be is an atheist. The first four commandments hammer this point home. There is a god, I’m him, no one else is, you’re not as good and don’t forget it. (Don’t murder anyone, doesn’t get a mention till number 6.)
When confronted with anyone who holds my lack of religious faith in such contempt, I say, “It’s the way God made me.”
But what are atheists really being accused of?
The dictionary definition of God is “a supernatural creator and overseer of the universe.” Included in this definition are all deities, goddesses and supernatural beings. Since the beginning of recorded history, which is defined by the invention of writing by the Sumerians around 6,000 years ago, historians have cataloged over 3700 supernatural beings, of which 2870 can be considered deities.
So next time someone tells me they believe in God, I’ll say “Oh which one? Zeus? Hades? Jupiter? Mars? Odin? Thor? Krishna? Vishnu? Ra?…” If they say “Just God. I only believe in the one God,” I’ll point out that they are nearly as atheistic as me. I don’t believe in 2,870 gods, and they don’t believe in 2,869.
I used to believe in God. The Christian one that is.
I loved Jesus. He was my hero. More than pop stars. More than footballers. More than God. God was by definition omnipotent and perfect. Jesus was a man. He had to work at it. He had temptation but defeated sin. He had integrity and courage. But He was my hero because He was kind. And He was kind to everyone. He didn’t bow to peer pressure or tyranny or cruelty. He didn’t care who you were. He loved you. What a guy. I wanted to be just like Him.
One day when I was about 8 years old, I was drawing the crucifixion as part of my Bible studies homework. I loved art too. And nature. I loved how God made all the animals. They were also perfect. Unconditionally beautiful. It was an amazing world.
I lived in a very poor, working-class estate in an urban sprawl called Reading, about 40 miles west of London. My father was a laborer and my mother was a housewife. I was never ashamed of poverty. It was almost noble. Also, everyone I knew was in the same situation, and I had everything I needed. School was free. My clothes were cheap and always clean and ironed. And mum was always cooking. She was cooking the day I was drawing on the cross.
I was sitting at the kitchen table when my brother came home. He was 11 years older than me, so he would have been 19. He was as smart as anyone I knew, but he was too cheeky. He would answer back and get into trouble. I was a good boy. I went to church and believed in God -– what a relief for a working-class mother. You see, growing up where I did, mums didn’t hope as high as their kids growing up to be doctors; they just hoped their kids didn’t go to jail. So bring them up believing in God and they’ll be good and law abiding. It’s a perfect system. Well, nearly. 75 percent of Americans are God-‐fearing Christians; 75 percent of prisoners are God-‐fearing Christians. 10 percent of Americans are atheists; 0.2 percent of prisoners are atheists.
But anyway, there I was happily drawing my hero when my big brother Bob asked, “Why do you believe in God?” Just a simple question. But my mum panicked. “Bob,” she said in a tone that I knew meant, “Shut up.” Why was that a bad thing to ask? If there was a God and my faith was strong it didn’t matter what people said.
Oh…hang on. There is no God. He knows it, and she knows it deep down. It was as simple as that. I started thinking about it and asking more questions, and within an hour, I was an atheist.
Wow. No God. If mum had lied to me about God, had she also lied to me about Santa? Yes, of course, but who cares? The gifts kept coming. And so did the gifts of my new found atheism. The gifts of truth, science, nature. The real beauty of this world. I learned of evolution -– a theory so simple that only England’s greatest genius could have come up with it. Evolution of plants, animals and us –- with imagination, free will, love, humor. I no longer needed a reason for my existence, just a reason to live. And imagination, free will, love, humor, fun, music, sports, beer and pizza are all good enough reasons for living.
But living an honest life -– for that you need the truth. That’s the other thing I learned that day, that the truth, however shocking or uncomfortable, in the end leads to liberation and dignity.
So what does the question “Why don’t you believe in God?” really mean. I think when someone asks that they are really questioning their own belief. In a way they are asking “what makes you so special? “How come you weren’t brainwashed with the rest of us?” “How dare you say I’m a fool and I’m not going to heaven, f— you!” Let’s be honest, if one person believed in God he would be considered pretty strange. But because it’s a very popular view it’s accepted. And why is it such a popular view? That’s obvious. It’s an attractive proposition. Believe in me and live forever. Again if it was just a case of spirituality this would be fine.
“Do unto others…” is a good rule of thumb. I live by that. Forgiveness is probably the greatest virtue there is. But that’s exactly what it is -‐ a virtue. Not just a Christian virtue. No one owns being good. I’m good. I just don’t believe I’ll be rewarded for it in heaven. My reward is here and now. It’s knowing that I try to do the right thing. That I lived a good life. And that’s where spirituality really lost its way. When it became a stick to beat people with. “Do this or you’ll burn in hell.”
You won’t burn in hell. But be nice anyway.
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
Camp Wedding
Angie married Michael at the Olympic Park Institute out on the Washington peninsula. What an amazing event in a beautiful place. Nothing makes me happier than seeing the people I love IN love. A HUGE, MASSIVE, GIGANTIC congrats to the beautiful couple. I only wish that I had a photo of the stunning couple on their wedding day to share because it was....stunning!


Thursday, July 8, 2010
What up
Here are some photos of past few. My camera is pretty broken, so not a whole lot of shots turn out.



Sunday, April 18, 2010
This shower rocks

This is Dr. Jim Weller - in front of one of his paintings. He is a master woodworker and built his own totally fabulous home (and pictured with him is my fabulous friend Crystal who is back on island for a visit after nearly 2 years away...party!). And I just know it took a few smokey treats to inspire the creativity of this shower on his screened-in porch. A freaking double helix! Talk about a time-consuming endeavor. I love it.



Thursday, April 1, 2010
Eeeww to the max

Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Jost is the Most!



Saturday, February 27, 2010
The Power of Engagement

That's the thing about living on a small island prone to partying...everywhere you go, someone gets you drinks. Rhumb Lines, a favorite restaurant and Jason's former employer, got us tequila shots, wine, and hacked off the top of a delicious bottle of Veuve Clicquot with a sharp knife. Somehow we did not end up hungover. That remains a mystery.
So now to not even think about planning for awhile. Summer 2011 will be wedding time, at some point. Below, the ring...I love it (and in the tradition set forth by Lani and Angie, on a piece of non-vegan food)! Big old aquamarine in the perfect light blue. I wanted aquamarine because it is a strong stone and it kind of has a Caribbean blue hue...an ode to our relationship thus far. Jason told me it is also his birthstone and the stone for the month of our anniversary. Now I love it even more. Also, people tend to think it is a rather big blue diamond, but those people don't know anything, because if it was, it would have caused several million. Fun to mess with some minds though.

Monday, February 8, 2010
Villa Fab
Monday, January 25, 2010
Hot-lanta
My time in Atlanta was spent SHOPPING. Seriously, hardcore shopping. It was kind of fun, and although it was for someone else's store, we got a lot of stuff to get excited about. Also quite psyched about getting a huge discount when these things arrive on St. John. But it is also quite annoying to have to be cruising along to another's whims. Especially since we have totally different ideas about style and priorities. It was really exhausting. So exhausting that I did not get to see my friend Caroline who I haven't seen since we lived in South Africa. Sadness. I just couldn't bring myself to move or speak after a day of intense running around.
But I decided to use this trip to also network for myself. I found a ton of awesome contacts for great boutique things, and it has made me soooo very excited to start my own thing. At some point. Back in Seattle. Or near there anyway.
Although it was totally annoying to have to share a room with the store owner and her teenage daughter, deal with their obnoxious travel habits (yes, she is the person who runs right up to block everyone's way while they try to board the plane instead of sitting and waiting for her seat to be called; and she also had a freak-out while landing in St. Thomas that meant several flight attendants having to attend to her....ACK!), and get exhausted to the point of illness, it was an awesome trip! Now I want to go back and actually EXPERIENCE the real South. Another day, or more likely another year.
Friday, January 1, 2010
Decade in Review
Kinda boring, it seems. But there was a lot of fun in there too! Amazing friends, parties, trips, weddings, babies. So what about the next decade?? I will want it to read a little something like this...
Got married, moved back to Seattle for most of year, got kids, traveled A LOT, moved to Sydney, moved back to Seattle, moved to Paris, turned 40 (!!), moved back to Seattle.
I don't think that is asking too much!
Tuesday, December 15, 2009
Having a Moment
Monday, November 16, 2009
Well Put
The National Guard will stand outside the courthouses and force you to grow the hell up, and you will be remembered in history like those sad ugly white people yelling at the black kids coming to class.
And this isn’t the fifties. This is the twenty-first century. Your bisexual grandkids will still be able to Google your sorry ass and see that you were a spiteful hateful closeminded bigot. They’ll have your lying ads, annotated with footnotes showing how you knew you were lying at the time. They’ll have your ugly homophobic comments and your hate-filled fake news reports captured in crystal clarity on whatever magical Internet++ they’re using decades from now. And they’re going to be ashamed of you.
All you’ve done — all you’ve accomplished with your lies and hate and fearmongering — is to delay the inevitable. In the next few years, every widow who loses her home because she “wasn’t really married” to her life partner, and the life partner’s kids have a good lawyer? Every man who dies scared and alone because the man who should have been his husband wasn’t allowed to be at his bedside? Every not-spouse who dies because of not-health-coverage, coverage they would have gotten were they married? Every one of those things that happens between now and whenever the National Guard puts a little learnin’ on you?
That’s on you.
That’s your legacy.
-Suicide Blonde
Friday, October 9, 2009
You suck.
I applied for a part-time position at your store because I am rather bored. It is a painless, no-brainer sort of job and I don't care about the pay.
First of all, I know you a little, but you still had me fill out a stupid application. THEN, when I gave it to you, you had the audacity to ask me if I had any retail experience!
This really gets my buns a burnin'. First of all, yes, I do. A lot. BUT WHAT IF I DIDN'T??!! This is the most easy, basic job there is. I am not some sort of special needs individual. I am friendly and use at least a portion of my brain. Do I really need retail experience? NO. Why do YOU think this job is so special? It's not. It is a stupid retail position...say 'hi', be nice and helpful, ring up customer at cash register. A trained chimp could do it!
I don't even want that stupid job anymore. It's annoying for me to think about.
Friday, September 25, 2009
Ick.
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Tuesday, September 8, 2009
Flashback to summer '09

A review in pictures... Above: Little Will (Cousin Ryan's boy) visited with his mom Leslie. We spent the day at the pool at the Marriott on St. Thomas and went down waterslide A LOT. Twas fun!
More of the little dude. He really took to the water and was doing a great job.Then...Megan and Little Michael's going away beach party at Francis. There were sooo many people. The kind of day that makes you really love St. John.
Kenny, the host with the most. Broke out shrimp cocktail when everyone needed a snack to temper the alcohol. Above he is serving it up to all the ocean-bound folk, below, preparing. Proudly served in lovely crystal glasses.
What a turn-out!
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
The time is now!
Gleegarden.com
That is my new website! I am broke as a joke at the moment, and I am not sure how this will end up paying off (people have to click on the ad banners at the top and side of the pages and make purchases through them), but it has been fun! And it will continue to be fun.
I only want to represent the best, so I welcome ideas. Lani and Didi have already been an awesome help, and I welcome more product must-haves from your lives.
Hope you enjoy, and if you do, please pass along to all you know. Much love to you for your support!






