Tuesday, December 21, 2010

I really could not have said it better myself. Really.

I love me some Ricky Gervais. Not only is he an amazing comedian, but he put into eloquent words something that I cannot. See, I would love to post this on Facebook, but I have some seriously psycho Christian types that are my "friends" and they would probably freak. And hold your horses now, not everyone who is Christian is painfully fanatical about it. I do in fact have several people I love and respect who are Christians. But they aren't those Christians. And I am stopping my jabbering now, because you should just read this (longish, but a quick read):

A Holiday Message from Ricky Gervais: Why I'm an Atheist

Why don’t you believe in God? I get that question all the time. I always try to give a sensitive, reasoned answer. This is usually awkward, time consuming and pointless. People who believe in God don’t need proof of his existence, and they certainly don’t want evidence to the contrary. They are happy with their belief. They even say things like “it’s true to me” and “it’s faith.” I still give my logical answer because I feel that not being honest would be patronizing and impolite. It is ironic therefore that “I don’t believe in God because there is absolutely no scientific evidence for his existence and from what I’ve heard the very definition is a logical impossibility in this known universe,” comes across as both patronizing and impolite.

Arrogance is another accusation. Which seems particularly unfair. Science seeks the truth. And it does not discriminate. For better or worse it finds things out. Science is humble. It knows what it knows and it knows what it doesn’t know. It bases its conclusions and beliefs on hard evidence -­- evidence that is constantly updated and upgraded. It doesn’t get offended when new facts come along. It embraces the body of knowledge. It doesn’t hold on to medieval practices because they are tradition. If it did, you wouldn’t get a shot of penicillin, you’d pop a leach down your trousers and pray. Whatever you “believe,” this is not as effective as medicine. Again you can say, “It works for me,” but so do placebos. My point being, I’m saying God doesn’t exist. I’m not saying faith doesn’t exist. I know faith exists. I see it all the time. But believing in something doesn’t make it true. Hoping that something is true doesn’t make it true. The existence of God is not subjective. He either exists or he doesn’t. It’s not a matter of opinion. You can have your own opinions. But you can’t have your own facts.

Why don’t I believe in God? No, no no, why do YOU believe in God? Surely the burden of proof is on the believer. You started all this. If I came up to you and said, “Why don’t you believe I can fly?” You’d say, “Why would I?” I’d reply, “Because it’s a matter of faith.” If I then said, “Prove I can’t fly. Prove I can’t fly see, see, you can’t prove it can you?” You’d probably either walk away, call security or throw me out of the window and shout, ‘’F—ing fly then you lunatic.”

This, is of course a spirituality issue, religion is a different matter. As an atheist, I see nothing “wrong” in believing in a god. I don’t think there is a god, but belief in him does no harm. If it helps you in any way, then that’s fine with me. It’s when belief starts infringing on other people’s rights when it worries me. I would never deny your right to believe in a god. I would just rather you didn’t kill people who believe in a different god, say. Or stone someone to death because your rulebook says their sexuality is immoral. It’s strange that anyone who believes that an all-powerful all-knowing, omniscient power responsible for everything that happens, would also want to judge and punish people for what they are. From what I can gather, pretty much the worst type of person you can be is an atheist. The first four commandments hammer this point home. There is a god, I’m him, no one else is, you’re not as good and don’t forget it. (Don’t murder anyone, doesn’t get a mention till number 6.)

When confronted with anyone who holds my lack of religious faith in such contempt, I say, “It’s the way God made me.”

But what are atheists really being accused of?

The dictionary definition of God is “a supernatural creator and overseer of the universe.” Included in this definition are all deities, goddesses and supernatural beings. Since the beginning of recorded history, which is defined by the invention of writing by the Sumerians around 6,000 years ago, historians have cataloged over 3700 supernatural beings, of which 2870 can be considered deities.

So next time someone tells me they believe in God, I’ll say “Oh which one? Zeus? Hades? Jupiter? Mars? Odin? Thor? Krishna? Vishnu? Ra?…” If they say “Just God. I only believe in the one God,” I’ll point out that they are nearly as atheistic as me. I don’t believe in 2,870 gods, and they don’t believe in 2,869.

I used to believe in God. The Christian one that is.

I loved Jesus. He was my hero. More than pop stars. More than footballers. More than God. God was by definition omnipotent and perfect. Jesus was a man. He had to work at it. He had temptation but defeated sin. He had integrity and courage. But He was my hero because He was kind. And He was kind to everyone. He didn’t bow to peer pressure or tyranny or cruelty. He didn’t care who you were. He loved you. What a guy. I wanted to be just like Him.

One day when I was about 8 years old, I was drawing the crucifixion as part of my Bible studies homework. I loved art too. And nature. I loved how God made all the animals. They were also perfect. Unconditionally beautiful. It was an amazing world.

I lived in a very poor, working-class estate in an urban sprawl called Reading, about 40 miles west of London. My father was a laborer and my mother was a housewife. I was never ashamed of poverty. It was almost noble. Also, everyone I knew was in the same situation, and I had everything I needed. School was free. My clothes were cheap and always clean and ironed. And mum was always cooking. She was cooking the day I was drawing on the cross.

I was sitting at the kitchen table when my brother came home. He was 11 years older than me, so he would have been 19. He was as smart as anyone I knew, but he was too cheeky. He would answer back and get into trouble. I was a good boy. I went to church and believed in God -– what a relief for a working-class mother. You see, growing up where I did, mums didn’t hope as high as their kids growing up to be doctors; they just hoped their kids didn’t go to jail. So bring them up believing in God and they’ll be good and law abiding. It’s a perfect system. Well, nearly. 75 percent of Americans are God-­‐fearing Christians; 75 percent of prisoners are God-­‐fearing Christians. 10 percent of Americans are atheists; 0.2 percent of prisoners are atheists.

But anyway, there I was happily drawing my hero when my big brother Bob asked, “Why do you believe in God?” Just a simple question. But my mum panicked. “Bob,” she said in a tone that I knew meant, “Shut up.” Why was that a bad thing to ask? If there was a God and my faith was strong it didn’t matter what people said.

Oh…hang on. There is no God. He knows it, and she knows it deep down. It was as simple as that. I started thinking about it and asking more questions, and within an hour, I was an atheist.

Wow. No God. If mum had lied to me about God, had she also lied to me about Santa? Yes, of course, but who cares? The gifts kept coming. And so did the gifts of my new found atheism. The gifts of truth, science, nature. The real beauty of this world. I learned of evolution -– a theory so simple that only England’s greatest genius could have come up with it. Evolution of plants, animals and us –- with imagination, free will, love, humor. I no longer needed a reason for my existence, just a reason to live. And imagination, free will, love, humor, fun, music, sports, beer and pizza are all good enough reasons for living.

But living an honest life -– for that you need the truth. That’s the other thing I learned that day, that the truth, however shocking or uncomfortable, in the end leads to liberation and dignity.

So what does the question “Why don’t you believe in God?” really mean. I think when someone asks that they are really questioning their own belief. In a way they are asking “what makes you so special? “How come you weren’t brainwashed with the rest of us?” “How dare you say I’m a fool and I’m not going to heaven, f— you!” Let’s be honest, if one person believed in God he would be considered pretty strange. But because it’s a very popular view it’s accepted. And why is it such a popular view? That’s obvious. It’s an attractive proposition. Believe in me and live forever. Again if it was just a case of spirituality this would be fine.

“Do unto others…” is a good rule of thumb. I live by that. Forgiveness is probably the greatest virtue there is. But that’s exactly what it is -­‐ a virtue. Not just a Christian virtue. No one owns being good. I’m good. I just don’t believe I’ll be rewarded for it in heaven. My reward is here and now. It’s knowing that I try to do the right thing. That I lived a good life. And that’s where spirituality really lost its way. When it became a stick to beat people with. “Do this or you’ll burn in hell.”

You won’t burn in hell. But be nice anyway.

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Camp Wedding

Yes, admittedly I have sucked at keeping this whole blog thingy up. Back to Seattle and not a whole lot of inspiration. With that being said, I let a totally special and amazing event slip by without a word. Shame on me! It was, after all, the wedding of one of my best friends, Miss Angie Bakke.

Angie married Michael at the Olympic Park Institute out on the Washington peninsula. What an amazing event in a beautiful place. Nothing makes me happier than seeing the people I love IN love. A HUGE, MASSIVE, GIGANTIC congrats to the beautiful couple. I only wish that I had a photo of the stunning couple on their wedding day to share because it was....stunning!


Brynn, Lani, Joy and Emily...what a perfect camp wedding outfit combo!


Didi was in charge of signage, as she obviously should be.


Jan and Angie...the beautiful Bakke women


Lake Crescent. Amazeballs! And don't even get me started on the stars at night. Shooowee!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

What up

Seattle, that's what up. It has been madness moving back here, and admittedly, a bit of a culture shock. But I am getting in the groove. Back at my old job, loving my apartment and being back in the old hood. And since summer finally started yesterday (that would be July 6th, everyone), I am a happy gal. Everything is perfect except that Jason is on St. John. Oh, and I am not rich. Oh yeah, and then there's that whole oil leak thing, and suffering refugees, and, and, and....

Here are some photos of past few. My camera is pretty broken, so not a whole lot of shots turn out.


Full moon out my bedroom window


Sadie and I hang at the Space Needle when she visits


Sadie and I at the sculpture park


Day time out my window. Nice parking lot!


Does this look special to you? Although lacking decor in the bedroom, I have a brand new king size bed with luxurious white bedding. Happy me!

Sunday, April 18, 2010

This shower rocks


This is Dr. Jim Weller - in front of one of his paintings. He is a master woodworker and built his own totally fabulous home (and pictured with him is my fabulous friend Crystal who is back on island for a visit after nearly 2 years away...party!). And I just know it took a few smokey treats to inspire the creativity of this shower on his screened-in porch. A freaking double helix! Talk about a time-consuming endeavor. I love it.




Thursday, April 1, 2010

Eeeww to the max

Looked down to my neighbor's place below the other day from my porch...into a hamper that they just have there for whatever reason. Its main purpose seems to be to fill with putrid water and breed mosquitos, but I could not believe my eyes. I know we have big spiders, but???? Really???!!! Seriously, the pics do no justice. Glad it's dead.

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Jost is the Most!

FUN! We had the most incredibly fabulous weekend on Jost Van Dyke (Jost is pronounced 'Yoast') for Jason's 35th bday with our very special friend and tour guide Debbie. Jost is such a bitty little place that I've been to many times, but to actually go there and hang with the locals and rent a car to run around...it is just a totally different world. Debbie lived there for a bit so we got to hang with people we definitely would not have normally. Uncle Boy was a favorite. I mean, his name is UNCLE BOY. And he is the most amazing old dude ever. We stayed at Ivan's which is a famous spot for day trippers to pull up to for a day of drinking and fun, but actually hanging with the fabulous Ivan and looking at his old pictures was such a treat. It was drunken debauchery, as every Jost trip is, after all. Major dance party at Foxy's (I think pretty much I was the dance party); lots of my favorite St. Johnians (Garza family!) staying at Ivan's too; accidentally stealing someone's camera thinking it was Jason's phone-no resemblance whatsoever; meeting all the crazies on the little bitty 200 person island; having the bubbly pool all to ourselves and playing like little kids in the larger-than-average waves. It was absolutely paradise. And it is so close to St. John! Why has it taken me years to get over there to spend the night? Can't wait for the next go. In the meantime, photos (if my camera wasn't working so poorly, there would've been more)!


Uncle Boy! He's in his post-funeral leisure suit.

Bubbly Pool!


At Foxy's Taboo looking toward the dock.


Debbie and Jason enjoying at Bushwacker at Foxy's Taboo.

Another steep VI hill...looking toward Foxy's Taboo.



Saturday, February 27, 2010

The Power of Engagement

Last Saturday Jason and I got engaged! He caught me completely off guard as we walked between downtown Charlotte Amalie and Yacht Haven Grande by whipping the ring out on the street. It was not a mushy moment, thank goodness. Just a good ol' fashioned "Will you marry me?" Followed by me staring at the ring saying, "I love it!" a thousand times over. We still managed to try to get a few St. Thomas chores done, but we essentially just celebrated.


That's the thing about living on a small island prone to partying...everywhere you go, someone gets you drinks. Rhumb Lines, a favorite restaurant and Jason's former employer, got us tequila shots, wine, and hacked off the top of a delicious bottle of Veuve Clicquot with a sharp knife. Somehow we did not end up hungover. That remains a mystery.

So now to not even think about planning for awhile. Summer 2011 will be wedding time, at some point. Below, the ring...I love it (and in the tradition set forth by Lani and Angie, on a piece of non-vegan food)! Big old aquamarine in the perfect light blue. I wanted aquamarine because it is a strong stone and it kind of has a Caribbean blue hue...an ode to our relationship thus far. Jason told me it is also his birthstone and the stone for the month of our anniversary. Now I love it even more. Also, people tend to think it is a rather big blue diamond, but those people don't know anything, because if it was, it would have caused several million. Fun to mess with some minds though.

Monday, February 8, 2010

Villa Fab

Another year, another successful Friends of the Virgin Islands National Park Gala. Check out the spot we had it this year. Soooooo amazing! I love this villa! You must peruse. The pool area and outdoors are so big it looks like a resort. Why can I not live this life? (We are really, truly working on it.) Oh, and of course we had to go through to collect and hide all those damn starfish they have everywhere since it is really not so friendly to the park to take live animals from the ocean. Small downfall.

Monday, January 25, 2010

Hot-lanta

So I had my first official trip to the South this weekend, but I must say, it was hardly a 'Southern Experience'. In fact, the only time I got a breath of fresh air was when I got into and out of the taxi on the way from and to the airport. Ah well, another day.

My time in Atlanta was spent SHOPPING. Seriously, hardcore shopping. It was kind of fun, and although it was for someone else's store, we got a lot of stuff to get excited about. Also quite psyched about getting a huge discount when these things arrive on St. John. But it is also quite annoying to have to be cruising along to another's whims. Especially since we have totally different ideas about style and priorities. It was really exhausting. So exhausting that I did not get to see my friend Caroline who I haven't seen since we lived in South Africa. Sadness. I just couldn't bring myself to move or speak after a day of intense running around.

But I decided to use this trip to also network for myself. I found a ton of awesome contacts for great boutique things, and it has made me soooo very excited to start my own thing. At some point. Back in Seattle. Or near there anyway.

Although it was totally annoying to have to share a room with the store owner and her teenage daughter, deal with their obnoxious travel habits (yes, she is the person who runs right up to block everyone's way while they try to board the plane instead of sitting and waiting for her seat to be called; and she also had a freak-out while landing in St. Thomas that meant several flight attendants having to attend to her....ACK!), and get exhausted to the point of illness, it was an awesome trip! Now I want to go back and actually EXPERIENCE the real South. Another day, or more likely another year.

Friday, January 1, 2010

Decade in Review

Graduated college, moved to New York, moved to Seattle, got a job, got more jobs, moved to the Virgin Islands, got a good boyfriend, got more jobs, turned 30.

Kinda boring, it seems. But there was a lot of fun in there too! Amazing friends, parties, trips, weddings, babies. So what about the next decade?? I will want it to read a little something like this...

Got married, moved back to Seattle for most of year, got kids, traveled A LOT, moved to Sydney, moved back to Seattle, moved to Paris, turned 40 (!!), moved back to Seattle.

I don't think that is asking too much!